Hi friends! Life has been quite hectic between work and dating and working on expanding my blog. You'll see those changes in the coming weeks (hopefully!) Anyway, back to that middle thing: dating. Yes, I have been dipping my toe into the dating waters and boy, it has not been easy!
I don't have much time (or trust, sorry world) for meeting people in person. I'm not going to go to a bar and try to meet guys. 1) that doesn't sound safe and 2) does anyone actually do that? (if you do, comment below! I'd love to hear that story!) I rely on Bumble and Hinge to help me meet new guys. And then once I meet a guy who isn't totally creepy and seems decent, I figure it worth a shot to meet them in person. Then, no connection and it's time to start all over. Does this sound familiar to anyone?
Let me tell you, going on dates and finding out that nothing is going to come out of it (#singlepringle) is so discouraging. One day, after yet another not so good date, I came across this article. It's all stuff I've heard before, but it really got me thinking about dating and how I'm dating.
I've been single for a while, so I've gotten to know myself pretty well, like what I look for in a future boyfriend, what I want out of life, etc. I've also learned to be alone and how to do things on my own. Not in a I-have-no-friends kind of way, but in a comfortable I-don't need-a-man kind of way. I've actually found that there are some things that I actually like doing on my own. I still won't take myself to dinner, but I will make myself a nice dinner and treat myself to a movie (whatever is on Netflix or Hulu).
I think my favorite quote from the piece was "The longer you’re single -- the longer you pause to understand yourself and to create your life with your mind's paintbrush -- the more likely your next relationship will be the last one you'll ever need." I've been single for a while now and I'm actually okay with it. I think having someone to share life with would be wonderful, but when the time is right, I'll find the right person.